But Pain

'Pain changes us
We just need to decide how'

- Msray

We all process pain differently,
This is why even when someone shares a painful experience that I may be all too familiar with,
I am never quick to say,  ''I know how you feel''.

Because the truth is you don't know so much unless you are in that persons shoes, at that time, in the very same circumstance.
And even if you are, you cannot  gauge the level of that persons pain, using your own as a standard.
Pain does not know how to hurt, it just does.

So as a person committed to Loving people in their brokenness regardless of how difficult it can be,
You must be willing to listen carefully to peoples pain and all the while you pray that Wisdom gives you the right words or silence to speak when the time comes.

Because you are not the saviour, neither are you a super hero. You are just a person, who has chosen to pay Love forward.
So you must be open to the dynamics of healing, as much as the person hurting, realising that sometimes, the only way out of pain, is the way through it.